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Describe a real situation that repeatedly drains you, makes you feel envious, or that you cannot let go of: who is involved, what happened, and what you felt in the moment.

Min 60 chars

Analyze what comparisons, competition, or evaluative hierarchies exist in this relationship or scenario. Who is judging whom? By what standard?

Min 60 chars

Using Adler's teleological lens, ask yourself: what is the purpose behind my current emotion or avoidance behavior? What am I avoiding? What am I maintaining?

Min 60 chars

① Who ultimately bears the consequences of this matter? ② Am I interfering in someone else's task? ③ Am I handing my own task over to someone else to decide?

Min 60 chars

Spell out specifically what you will change, what you will say, and what you will stop doing — at least one action you can execute within one week.

Min 60 chars

If you carry out the plan above, the other person may not be grateful — or may even respond coolly. Are you willing to accept that outcome? Answer honestly and explain your reasoning.

Min 30 chars

Are you willing to design one small action for 'making a genuine contribution in this relationship — rather than proving yourself'?

Come back after one week and answer: Did you follow through? Has the emotional drain eased? If you didn't follow through, what got in the way?