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Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life — Build My Needs Portrait

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Book: 《Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life》
Route: Build My Needs Portrait
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Family scene: a real situation that triggered an emotion* Required

Write clearly: what happened / what you felt / how you reacted in the moment.

Min 60 chars

Work or intimate relationship scene: another real emotional situation* Required

Choose either a work or intimate relationship scene and write it the same way.

Min 60 chars

Emotion → Need bridges (at least 3)* Required

For each emotion, complete: 'I feel ___, because I need ___.'

Min 80 chars

My 5 most core needs* Required

Choose from the book's universal needs list and explain why these 5 matter most to you.

Min 60 chars

My habitual response patterns when needs go unmet* Required

Write specific behaviors, not personality adjectives. Examples: going silent / criticizing myself / arguing / withdrawing / scrolling my phone, etc.

Min 40 chars

Three-step self-empathy practice (for one of your response patterns)* Required

1. What am I judging 2. The feeling behind the judgment 3. The need behind the feeling — then write one sentence to yourself.

Min 80 chars

What I can say to myself the next time an emotion is triggered* Required

Write 1–3 sentences, rooted in your core needs, that can help you pause and self-empathize when emotions arise.

Min 30 chars

After completing your portrait, what new discoveries did you make about yourself? (optional)Optional

No set format — write the one sentence or passage you most want to capture.

Pre-submit checklist

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I've written at least 2 real emotional situations that actually happened (not imagined or described in vague terms).For each emotion I've completed the 'I feel ___, because I need ___' bridge, and the need is internal — not written as 'I need him/her to...'I've identified at least 3 core needs from the book's universal needs list that recur across multiple scenes.I've completed the three-step self-empathy practice and written one sentence to say to myself.My portrait focuses on me — it hasn't turned into an analysis or accusation of others.